Even then, you may only extend trust grudgingly or in small amounts. Having a low propensity to trust can hold you back from experiencing true joy and fulfillment in relationships.Ģ.
Your experiences may have resulted in you viewing trust as something to be earned, not given, so therefore you withhold trust from others until you’re absolutely sure they deserve it. The combination of these factors and experiences shapes how quickly, and how much trust we extend to others. You have a low propensity to trust – Our propensity to trust is based on many factors, chief among them being our personality, early childhood role models and experiences, beliefs and values, culture, self-awareness and emotional maturity. Here’s three common reasons that hold you back from trusting others:ġ. When you find yourself struggling to decide whether or not to trust someone, it’s important to figure out the reasons why. Maybe you feel similarly, and even if you don’t, you’ve probably experienced broken trust in a past relationship that has caused you to question whether or not it’s worth trusting again. “Every time I’ve trusted people in the past I’ve been let down, so now it’s easier and less painful to just rely on myself.”
“I don’t know why, but I can’t bring myself to trust people,” the person said to me in a private conversation after a workshop on building trust.